50 Signs Your Partner Is a Porn Addict

The following is a list of 50 signs that your partner is a porn addict…

1. He/ she is taking their laptop or handheld device into the bathroom a lot and spending a lot of time in there.

2. Sex is dwindling. So is emotional intimacy.

3. When you do have sex he/ she is asking you to do more outrageous things – including anal sex and being photographed or filmed. You begin agreeing to do them – including bringing other people into your sexual relationship – in the hopes he/ she will want you more. You are beginning to feel like you are nothing more than a sex doll because you keep getting groped non-lovingly during sex.

4. Sex has disappeared altogether. You now beg him or her for sex when once it was the other way around. This is affecting your self esteem considerably. You blame yourself.

5. You find porn stashes hidden inside files called things like “taxes”, inside golf club bags or in the ceiling tiles.

6. He/ she has no empathy towards you anymore. The beauty between you has gone.

7. Little touches that he/ she used to give you are no longer there.

8. You feel like a dark entity has entered your home.

9. You begin to drive yourself crazy trying to make yourself more sexually desirable so he/ she will want you again and begin going on diets or having cosmetic surgery or other procedures. None of it works. You have an age complex even if you are in your 20s.

10. You hear your partner masturbating next to you in bed yet that person will not have sex with you.

11. Your partner’s mood is very changeable.

12. You begin to feel like you are an intruder in your own home because he/ she always seems to want you to go out and looks disappointed when you come home.

13. Porn feels like it has become “the other woman or man” – a third “person” in your relationship.

14. He/ she blames you for their porn use. Reasons range from “it’s because you are fat” to “you are not sexually experimental enough” – with everything in between.

15. You do things sexually with your partner that you feel degrade you just to keep his/ her sexual interest in you.

16. You have sex multiple times a day to keep his/ her sexual interest.

17. Subscribing your partner to porn sites or going to strip clubs with the person to be a “cool partner”.

18. Your partner is aroused by porn but loses arousal when touching you.

19. Your partner is unable to climax when having sex with you.

20. At times you feel like punching your partner in the face during sex.

21. Your partner is up porning until all hours of the morning and then again before work and when he/ she comes home.

22. Your partner is having webcam sex with multiple other people.

23. You sometimes feel like you want to have affairs to get even.

24. The person brings their Smart Phone to bed.

25. Looking at your partner’s computer search history horrifies you at some of the things the person has been looking at – like gang rapes, barely legal porn, gay and shemale porn. You question who they are and their sexuality as a result.

26. You tell yourself that it is you who is the prude. Your partner agrees.

27. Your skincare/ baby lotion has begun disappearing.

28. You begin finding your partner in very undignified positions.

29. Your children begin to find your partner in very undignified positions.

30. You find out your partner has begun using sex chat lines.

31. Your partner takes sexual photos of you whilst you are asleep or touches you sexually whilst you are asleep.

32. Sexual photos of you turn up on the Internet without your consent.

33. You feel like you are competing with porn performers.

34. You find sexual footage your partner has taken of themselves that he/ she has shared with other people online.

35. Your digital camera goes missing.

36. You find profiles of your partner on Singles sites or adverts he/ she has put into places like Craigslist looking for sex.

37. Your partner has huge mobile phone bills.

38. He/ she is having sex with prostitutes.

39. You have become a detective. It becomes a full time job. When found out, he/ she makes you feel like you have betrayed him/ her for snooping.

40. You begin taking revenge on their methodically organised porn collection.

41. Your partner blame-shifts everything onto you. Your mind is tied in knots.

42. Your partner calls you “damaged goods”.

43. He/ she tells you it’s your insecurities that are the problem not the porn.

44. When he/ she does not do porn for a few days, the person is very volatile emotionally.

45. Life has become an emotional rollercoaster.

46. You are constantly lied to and this is the thing which hurts you the most. The loss of trust often feels like a death.

47. You become obsessed with thoughts of their porn viewing.

48. Your partner is sacked for porning at work.

49. You find child pornography on your partner’s computer.

50. The police knock at your door and remove your partner’s computer.

There is only one thing certain with porn addiction – the fact that it will get worse… No addiction ever gets better by itself. Not ever.